Brutal Goodbyes

You’ve finally managed to live under separate roofs. Immediate assets are mostly divided and you have your space. Now it’s time for the first exchange of your child(ren). You try to talk to your child and explain what is going to happen. You explain dropping off and picking up, phone…

Allow them to Love!

Children are so amazing! They like to please, are so quick to forgive and love to love! This is why it is especially devastating when children are put in a situation where they don’t feel like they are allowed to love. So many divorces are so ugly that no matter…

Reasons for Divorce

It seems that as soon as you start to reveal that your marriage is in trouble and divorce is imminent everyone wants to know “Why.” Maybe it’s an inherent panic that makes people curious to see if they are doing something damaging to their own marriage but mostly this question…

Titles, Names and Labels

Let’s face it. Calling someone a “Step” anything automatically assumes a negative connotation. Particularly because if your relationship is strong and happy usually the “step” just goes away and “step-brother” becomes “brother” and “step-mother” becomes “mother” ect... But until that comfort level is developed, what should you call each other?…

Consider the Children

The most hurtful question through my entire divorce was from a family member who asked: “How can you be so selfish and not think of your child?” Where on earth does this accusation come from? How could someone just automatically conclude that because the decision to divorce was made that…