The Ex-Stepmom

Being a stepmom is hard. It’s a lot of unknown and frustration with no one really knowing how to navigate it. I found lots of support groups for stepmoms! Some were focused on bashing the bio-moms but plenty of them were incredibly helpful and supportive. Now I’m finding myself in…

Remind Your Children that They are Good

I had a rude parenting awareness moment recently when I had tucked my youngest back into bed for a nap. To say that both of my girls have been emotional lately is an understatement. Ok, all three of us have been. But considering the circumstances of the separation and impending…

Yes, He’s my kid too!

Unfortunately there are times when people feel they have the right to correct you when you count your stepchild as "my kid". It's one of those annoying realities that comes with the package of being a Stepmom. This sometimes happens when you are the one speaking. For example, you are…

I don’t feel guilty!

Today while dropping my kindergartener off at school, I surrendered to the television in our van. I’ve been trying to stay away from electronic devices as much as possible for the kids and trying to get them to play with toys, outside or just listen to music in the car.…

Brutal Goodbyes

You’ve finally managed to live under separate roofs. Immediate assets are mostly divided and you have your space. Now it’s time for the first exchange of your child(ren). You try to talk to your child and explain what is going to happen. You explain dropping off and picking up, phone…

Allow them to Love!

Children are so amazing! They like to please, are so quick to forgive and love to love! This is why it is especially devastating when children are put in a situation where they don’t feel like they are allowed to love. So many divorces are so ugly that no matter…

Titles, Names and Labels

Let’s face it. Calling someone a “Step” anything automatically assumes a negative connotation. Particularly because if your relationship is strong and happy usually the “step” just goes away and “step-brother” becomes “brother” and “step-mother” becomes “mother” ect... But until that comfort level is developed, what should you call each other?…