Remind Your Children that They are Good

I had a rude parenting awareness moment recently when I had tucked my youngest back into bed for a nap. To say that both of my girls have been emotional lately is an understatement. Ok, all three of us have been. But considering the circumstances of the separation and impending…

We are still a family

We are still a family. Shortly after a wonderful vacation, just days before our 4 year anniversary, and a month before my 31st birthday, my husband called It-Quits on our marriage.   Still reeling with shock and confusion I tried to get clarification. No marriage counseling, no more trying, just done.…

Criticism Destroys Fatherhood

I notice every year that Father’s Day never receives the same attention that Mother’s Day does. There is an age old stereotype that suggests mother’s do more for their children than their Fathers do. Well, I have a bone to pick with that. This stereotype has never been more false…

Enjoy the Journey

You want me to WHAT?!!! This was the very first lesson in Relief Society the Sunday following being served Divorce Papers. I could barely listen. I knew that what was being taught was important, but seriously?!!! I couldn't get my negative emotions out of my head. I was homeless, a…

Divorce Papers… Again

I’m sitting here, staring at a thick packet of papers. Heart pounding as I read the words. A case number, “dissolution of marriage”, “irretrievably broken”… The words are floating by making my head spin. To some extend I feel the relief I was anticipating but more overwhelming is this feeling…

Reasons for Divorce

It seems that as soon as you start to reveal that your marriage is in trouble and divorce is imminent everyone wants to know “Why.” Maybe it’s an inherent panic that makes people curious to see if they are doing something damaging to their own marriage but mostly this question…

Consider the Children

The most hurtful question through my entire divorce was from a family member who asked: “How can you be so selfish and not think of your child?” Where on earth does this accusation come from? How could someone just automatically conclude that because the decision to divorce was made that…